When words are not enough ......

As so many of us hear on a daily, weekly, yearly basis when you are with someone you love , sometimes words are not enough. No amount of I love you, or I'm sorry, or I wont do it again will ever take away the pain that someone has hurt you.

Many of you are aware, I am in a solid SL relationship. I have been lucky enough to share my SL experiences with my Mr K for the past 22 months. I dont think either of us ever thought that we would be so reliant on one another and that SL without each other would be a very dark and cold place.

Valentines Day in RL, I treat with scepticism. It's commercial paradise :- shop owners increase their prices for the sake of telling someone I love you. It seems that SL is no exception. Apparently accordingly to my husband, flowers, chocolates and all things that spell L O V E increased in value with valentines approaching.

Kasen and I didnt really discuss valentines day this year. We muttered something one day about not buying presents for each other and that sufficed. On sunday, Kasen left me a msg in world and on skype.

" What does a guy get a girl that has everything in sl for Valentines Day? I have been trying to decide for a month now! Sure I will send you some flowers, I can't think of any thing else, well maybe you should read Fashionista. Love Mr. K"

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Sometimes, words are not enough, but in this case , words were all that mattered.

A Special World

A special world for you and me

A special bond one cannot see

It wraps us up in its cocoon

And holds us fiercely in its womb.

Its fingers spread like fine spun gold

Gently nestling us to the fold

Like silken thread it holds us fast

Bonds like this are meant to last.

And though at times a thread may break

A new one forms in its wake

To bind us closer and keep us strong

In a special world, where we belong.

- Sheelagh Lennon - A Special World

FORMING RELATIONSHIPS IN SL

Recently having subscribed to The Looking Glass, there are numerous articles that have inspired me to comment. Nepherses Amat, a first class writer and SL enthusiast talks mainly about SL relationships, sex, dating and all things sugar and spice in which her column is called. She has some interesting view points about life in general and questions about when SL becomes reality.

I often wonder how these relationships are formed! Many of my friends hop in and out of relationships all of the time. One in particular has been married twice in SL, where others, like myself have been in a steady partnership for 14 months. What makes me different? Im not really sure. Honesty and respect are key and of course trust. Voice I think has had a massive impact when Lindens introduced chat in world. Without that Im not sure if Kasen and I would have lasted the test of time, but maybe he would disagree. It has taken us to a completely different level. Text type can be miscontrued and of course waiting impatiently for the other person to answer can take its toll.

Ive always said that SL is an extension of RL, you treat people how you wish to be treated. Nothing in this world is perfect, including SL relationships, but if you find the right one, your SL soulmate who you bond with, then keep hold of them as tight as you can. There is always a willing mate just round the corner ready to pinch your goods and make them their own.

From my own experiences, I know SL is a much nicer place when you have someone to share it with. My advice, take it as it comes, dont be too pushy and most of all form a friendship before plunging into that longterm relationship.